In response to “Why do men cheat”

Posted on May 4, 2008
Filed Under The Brick Vine, Sex |

In response to the “why do men cheat” blog. My question is why do men choose to stay? If what you are getting from the second is truly what you need and are missing, why cheat yourself out of true happiness? Why miss something that you don’t have to? But here we go with the grass is always greener adage. What ever happened to love the one your with? In essence who’s truly missing out here? I mean you are not only cheating the first women out of a real relationship and true love with someone who can totally be committed through both the good and the bad (if such an animal exist). You are limiting your ability to give love completely and by doing so you limit the amount of return love you receive as such. And even though the second one may be aware of what she is in, even though you say you will never leave the first one, you give the second a false sense of hope. She feels that eventually by overloading you with all the “right stuff” and putting some of her not so “right stuff” in the closet, she will eventually wear you down and you will leave the first for her. Who really wins here? Lets be real for a moment. What you like about the second is she really does not know you and she thinks your great. While you may be, the first one knows your imperfections. She has seen all sides of you and you of her. So the mystery is gone. Then you’ve taken up with another because there lies the mystery. So what happens next? Men are like drug addicts. They are always in search of that first hit. Meaning when that feeling of love was new. The surge of feelings and exploration and wonderment of getting to know someone and reality not yet settling in. No baggage. No wounds. No egos. No harsh words. No solemn attitudes. It’s naked and fresh and alive. It is what all great relationships are built on. It’s called intimacy. Sometimes it gets lost in the shuffle of every day life. But now you’ve directed that energy to another and there’s none left for the first. That’s why you don’t know how to get the intimacy back! So what should the first one do if she ever finds out because lets face it men are cowards. He’ll never tell unless he is backed into a corner. I’ll tell you what she should do. You should leave his ass at the first sign of unfaithfulness. And yes there are signs. For example, if he *67 to you from everywhere other than his cell phone, if he takes all his calls outside, so not to disturb you of course. If he is constantly texting on his phone. If you are not allowed to see his phone. If he starts talking about why men cheat. If he is always with the fellas. And oh yeah if he goes out of town and you can’t reach him and he doesn’t try to reach you or he can only text you or he never answers his phone when you call but he calls you back from another area of wherever he is. He is a lying, pathetic; scum sucking loser and you should take the nearest exit. He is a shady coward so do yourself a favor and let the other one have him. They deserve each other.